It’s a measure of the maturity of social networking that we’ve skipped from network to network refinding our contacts. Reestablishing those links that join us together as we dive from Bebo, to Pownce, to Jaiku, to Twitter, to Facebook and beyond has been a tough job. What I’m really interested in, is the coming wave of features in these social networks that will enable me to friend strangers in an organic way. If social networking is to grow, it needs to adopt intelligent, automated ways for distinguishing people of interest that I should friend.
Facebook has started doing this to a degree. For example, new joiners that have graduated from a member’s mater alma are being suggested as possible old friends that could know.

This form of suggestion is a blunt machete, it doesn’t necessary give me any relevant suggestions. Imagine for a second, I have graduated from a very large university, the chances that a suggestion based on the attendance of a new member at that institution is infinitesimal. The chances of me knowing that person become virtually zero. For a service that aims to reconnect me with old flames, it stinks. Fail.
The second way that Facebook (and I’m not particularly picking on Facebook here, as it’s done most down this avenue), is suggesting mutual friends of my friends as potential contacts. It does this when, for example, a couple of my friends share a relationship link in Facebook with another person. This might seem like a good idea, but the suggestion is an objective one. There seems to be no way of targeting subjective topics such as tastes in music, books or business interests, in this suggest a mutual friend mechanism. And this is the crux of the matter.
What’s interesting for me as a social animal may not interest another. In the real world, the matching of interests is concentrated in the form of a connector. A mutual middleman who knows what both you and I are interested in and makes the effort in connecting us. In the Irish business sphere, the connector might come in the form of a Pat Phelan or a Paul Walsh. Someone who knows the value of contacts and is happy to make introductions where they see overlapping interests. What Facebook and other social networks need to adopt, is an automated Pat or Paul.
I might like, for example, to search for an buddy to go to post-modern German plays in Dublin. Yeah, a pretty small niche, but there’s no way for Facebook to suggest a buddy for me. You could argue, that perhaps I ought to join a Facebook group or signup to an event and use this kick-start the operation to discovery my drama buddy. But why all the work? Isn’t the data just there?
And now, we come to the heart of the issue. Data. Privacy is a biggie here. If organic friending is to work then it must operate in an opt-in mode, so that data that people are interested in sharing can be compiled and processed. Public data via RSS feeds ought to be fair game too. I want to have a 360 view of potentials. Of course, as with any friending contacts blind, it’s a case of buyer beware. Reputation must be weighed up before friending, but I’m taking it as a given that a person’s senses are operating. We’re not idiots.
So Facebook, suggest me this and suggest me that, but until you add an element of intelligence under the hood that fetches me targets of interest based on subjective parameters, things that I like, your suggestions waste my time and pixel real estate. Organic friending needs to be the next big leap forward for social networking, else our networks remain stale little holes of interaction lacking vitality and freshness.